Is there a place in the 21st-century career for loyalty?
If, in fact, the course I have set in motion comes to pass, then my current employer, who has done me no wrong, will suffer for it by me leaving for another job.
Is the company man dead?
Are we all ruthless individuals all acting in our own ruthless self-interest?
Am I the last person to think about these sorts of things? Why do I feel guilty about wanting the best deal for myself and my family? Is the devil I know truly better?
Raging Kraut
There is a difference between loyalty and guilt, is there not? Guilt kept me in my previous job for far too long, and in this particular case the grass WAS greener on the other side. But it's not always that way, obviously.
Loyalty should not be blind, it should be earned. If the new job was "misadvertised" to you by the people who interviewed you, that doesn't do much to strengthen the trust between new employee and employer. And without trust, there won't or can't be loyalty.
I'm not saying run away, I'm just saying don't feel the guilt of breaking a loyalty that hasn't been earned. You DO have to look out for the best interest of the family, including your own happiness and peace of mind.
Posted by on 09/08 at 07:02 PM
However if one has over-arching ambition, then the grass will always be greener else where. Each step up the ladder is just preparation for the next step. One way to avoid this would be to become your own boss, then your entire success or failure is your own fault (with the exception of macro-economic factors). That is probably one reason why you wanted to become a broker. I see lots of successful small business owners who are very well compensated for what they do. You just have to find something that catches your interest, work like a dog, don't worry about going bankrupt once or twice, and hope that you don't have a heart attack once you finally succeed.
Posted by on 09/08 at 10:01 PM
1. They did not misadvertise the position: I just find that I don't like it.
2. An "old" position has come up at an all too familiar company (you guys both know me outside this blog: thanks for keeping the company name off the site)that pays more. But I've had shall we say "personality differences" with some (by no means the majority) of the people I'd be working with.
3. The money would be better at the "old" job.
I just find that I have a hard time feeling right about the position I've now taken with the new company, while I'm angling for the other position.
It is guilt. I know the market dictates a certain amount of shenanigans, but I hate the games...
I think by staying there when not happy is being more disloyal than if you bit the bullet and moved on. You haven't been there long enough to have loyalties, guilt yes. I hope you figure out what to do!
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Loyalty should not be blind, it should be earned. If the new job was "misadvertised" to you by the people who interviewed you, that doesn't do much to strengthen the trust between new employee and employer. And without trust, there won't or can't be loyalty.
I'm not saying run away, I'm just saying don't feel the guilt of breaking a loyalty that hasn't been earned. You DO have to look out for the best interest of the family, including your own happiness and peace of mind.
2. An "old" position has come up at an all too familiar company (you guys both know me outside this blog: thanks for keeping the company name off the site)that pays more. But I've had shall we say "personality differences" with some (by no means the majority) of the people I'd be working with.
3. The money would be better at the "old" job.
I just find that I have a hard time feeling right about the position I've now taken with the new company, while I'm angling for the other position.
It is guilt. I know the market dictates a certain amount of shenanigans, but I hate the games...